If you married a fat girl and sweetly offered to do all the cooking but just so you could cook food that would slim her down and bought her and I a gym membership and took her on gym dates multiple times a week, she would likely feel like you were trying to change her and might not appreciate your efforts.

It is important to remember that people’s bodies come in all shapes and sizes, and that there is no one “right” way to look. If you are attracted to your wife, then you should accept her for who she is, regardless of her weight.

If you are concerned about her health, then you can talk to her about your concerns in a kind and respectful way. You can offer to go to the gym with her or cook healthy meals together, but you should not try to force her to change her lifestyle.

Ultimately, it is up to your wife to decide whether or not she wants to lose weight. If she does decide to lose weight, then you can be supportive by providing her with healthy meals and encouraging her to exercise. However, you should not try to control her weight or make her feel bad about herself.

Here are some things you can do to support your wife if she wants to lose weight:

• Be supportive and understanding. Let her know that you love her and that you are there to support her on her journey.
• Offer to go to the gym with her or cook healthy meals together.
• Encourage her to set realistic goals and to celebrate her successes.
• Avoid making negative comments about her weight or appearance.

It is important to remember that weight loss is a personal journey, and that everyone’s journey is different. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to weight loss. The most important thing is to be supportive and understanding, and to help your wife reach her goals in a healthy way.